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I started blogging just a few short weeks ago so I'm quite new to all of this. For me, it is therapy. A way to find release. For those that don't know me, I'm a PPD sufferer/survivor. I chose writing as an outlet and asked  two of my close friends to join in. We are having a great time and we look forward to a lot of laughs and hope to make new friends along the way that share our passion. I came across a blogger's website and found that she hosts a Theme Thursday Link-Up. She sets a blog theme every week and fellow bloggers write about the topic and share it with other bloggers. So without further babbling, this is why having a baby has killed my sex life.

Before we had my son my partner and I had a great sex life. We were in love, free. Even during my pregnancy we were active up until the last 6 weeks before the complications started. After my son arrived, we waited the mandated 6 weeks until we got the all clear from my OB. The green light came but neither of us did. We just didn't do it.  I suffered from PPD and he just suffered. I didn't want to be touched. 

As time went on, I got better and decided it was time to do the deed. It's not that the sex isn't great, it is. We've never had a problem in that department. However, I can honestly say in 4 months since our son was born, I can count on one hand the amount of sex we've had. What ruins it you ask?

1) The land is dry as a desert. No need to elaborate.

2) Belly flab...enough said.

3) Post pregnancy hormone changes, Cymbalta, and lack of sex drive.

4) The constant worry that you "hear the baby crying"

5) Anger....For fuck's sake, do some damn laundry!

6) Date nights become obsolete.

7) The days of drunken nights in a bar and sloppy drunk sex are long gone.

8) You become more of a team, partners, friends....where did my lover go? Better yet, where did I go?

9) Although on birth control pills, my period seems to strike at any time. Surprise!

10) I just don't feel like it. There is no explanation. I just don't want to.

11) Who has time to "groom"? I barely have time to shower let alone shave my legs, hoo-ha (cue 1970's porn music), and paint my toe nails.

12) Constant financial worry. You aren't human if you aren't thinking about bills, bills, and more bills. 

13) Too tired. Sleep before sex.

14) Sometimes I just don't like him.

15) I'd rather write.

~TJ

For more great blog posts from Theme Thursday visit www.cloudywithachanceofwine.com

 


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11/08/2012 7:14am

OMG, I loved this! Thanks so much for joining in on the fun!!! You know, I really miss drunken, sloppy sex. That was the best. Ah, the memories!!! You are a hilarious writer! I hope you'll join in Theme Thursday regularly!!!

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Tammy (TJ) Falletti
11/08/2012 12:44pm

Thank you so much!!! Your support is appreciated!!! It was fun to write! Can't wait until next week!

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11/08/2012 8:30am

lol, drunken sex is the only way to do it now! I have to have that handy social lubricant to stop obsessing over everything else I could be doing instead! I'm glad you joined us for TT! I hope to see you again!

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Tammy (TJ) Falletti
11/08/2012 12:46pm

Gosh! I wish I had time for drunken sex! Just drunk would be good too!!! Thanks for reading!

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running mama
11/08/2012 8:42am

Could we be Twinkies?

anger, yes! do some laundry? Indeed. or some dishes,vacuuming, dusting, sweeping...

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TJ
11/08/2012 12:50pm

I almost wet myself reading your blog! Little cock blocker!!! Too funny!!! I actually believe we might be twinkies!!!!! It's nice to read something and know I'm not the only one!!! Nice to meet you twin!

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11/08/2012 9:47am

I love this! So glad you've joined us!
"Sometimes I just don't like him" and "I'd rather write" I love it! I laughed so hard.

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TJ
11/08/2012 12:52pm

Thank you so much!!!! I'm looking forward to reading everyone's response to the topic. We can all use a good laugh these days!

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11/08/2012 1:56pm

OMG...you had me at "the land is dry as the desert". And it only gets worse with age, mind you. Thanks so much for contributing! Brilliant post :-) Can't wait to ready more of your writing.

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Tammy Falletti
11/09/2012 8:40pm

Thank you so much for reading! I'm glad you enjoyed it and had a little giggle. Looking forward to contributing next week! Loved your post too!

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11/08/2012 8:38pm

You hit the nail on the head with becoming a team and losing the lover. It is such a tough transition and I think a lot of people struggle to ever reconnect. I know it took me and my hubs two years after the first one to start feeling like there was more to our relationship than poopy diaper-feeding shifts. Lots of insight and funny in this one! Great post!

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Tammy Falletti
11/09/2012 8:42pm

Thank you! It means a lot. It's so nice to hear that everyone goes through these phases. BTW-I love your blog. It cracks me up!

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Tammy Falletti
11/09/2012 8:45pm

Thank you so much for reading. I'm glad to know that this is a phase everyone seems to go through. BTW- I love your blog! It cracks me up!

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Katie Peterson
11/09/2012 7:01pm

It gets better I promise! Lube is your friend! As for your BC pills and getting your period whenever, the lining of your uterus hasn't built up again since the pregnancy give it a bit more time.. If you are still spotting in between switch pills or try another form altogether! Your hormones just need time to readjust! I feel like everything you wrote about, every mom goes through it and if they say they don't their lying!! If you need advice about birth control let me know, I'd be glad to help!

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Tammy Falletti
11/09/2012 8:46pm

Thanks Katie! I will be sure to give you a shout out with any questions I might have!

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05/07/2013 2:39am

I’m not only an knowledgeable for this topic, however I do know very awesome developing once i know that. This is awesome material with awesome information.

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09/05/2013 4:02am

I like your post. I appreciate with you children is always disturb at sex time .These post is very helpful for those people who want to enjoy their life.

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